How quickly we grow up and forget all of the little things that used to make our hearts pound: marathon make-out sessions, writing love notes, spending hours creating the perfect mixed tape, going out in groups — did we mention marathon make-out sessions?
So many of the issues we have in our adult relationships could be resolved if we just took some tips from our teenage selves. Case in point: We reached out to some real couples who are doing just that — with positive relationship results.
1. Make out
Yes, sex is pretty great. But remember when kissing was the main event? When was the last time you and your spouse hunkered down for a spit-swapping session where someone wasn’t watching the clock or the TV wasn’t on in the background?
“When you’ve been married long enough, sex can sometimes become something else to cross off the to-do list. We spent a week away with some newlywed friends and at first my husband started overdoing it on the PDAs, mocking our lovebird buddies, but we found ourselves flirting with one another more and taking their cue in finding little passionate moments out of our usual pattern.” — Carla and Richard, married 17 years, Toronto
2. Write love notes
Remember how your heart would skip a beat when a cute boy would nonchalantly drop a folded piece of paper onto your desk? Or when you opened your locker to discover a note slipped inside? We never outgrow that feeling of excitement at receiving an unexpected message. Whether it’s a lovey-dovey sticky note on the bathroom mirror, a funny text or a simple “Hello” waiting among your morning emails, notes never go out of style.
“We have a white board in the kitchen where we leave each other messages like ‘defrost hamburgers for dinner’ or ‘pick up milk’ — but, mixed in with the day-to-day stuff, my husband will often write a sweet ‘I love you’ message or draw a goofy cartoon to make me laugh. I appreciate that he makes the effort to let me know he is thinking about me.” — Jenny and Michael, married four years, Ottawa