I haven’t told my son these facts about his biological father and don’t know if I should disclose this information and, if yes, how to do so. I don’t want him to stumble on it by accident, but I don’t want to hurt him with information that isn’t relevant to him.
Not only can he find it on the Internet, but so can others who might tell him about it. And surely there are some people who already know this story.
You and your husband need to talk to a professional therapist about how to introduce the topic. Also, discuss how you feel about the biological father’s contribution to the boy’s genetic background (Worried? Ashamed? Not an issue?).
And the therapist should be available to him if he wants to talk about it privately.
I’m positive and optimistic. He always sees the negative, petty side of things. When we’re together, our personalities clash — my sociability and his misanthropy.
Often, if we’re having coffee together, people who know me will want to chat, but my friend can be quite unpleasant.
Neither of us is comfortable with criticism and he can be extremely prickly.
Seeking Stronger Friendship
A: Accept your friend as he is because he’s unlikely to change. Talk about the things you have in common, and avoid debating issues on which you’re bound to disagree.
With “family first,” you’re not lacking support or caring in your life. Different friends engage different interests and stimulate different conversations. Know what you enjoy with this person, and seek him out for that. You understand your areas of disagreement too well to expect more from him.
My mother doesn’t like her and doesn’t know about her ex.
TIP OF THE DAY
Get professional help telling your child bad news about his/her biological parent.