I still regret ever taking him back. I often wonder how far ahead I’d be in my life if I hadn’t.
Single 13 Years
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My husband finds women with whom he’s comfortable and forms these emotional friendships. When I was working, I was careful to not form relationships with male co-workers because I thought it was a betrayal of my husband.
I feel betrayed that he has personal discussions with this woman. I’m continuously having dreams about him ignoring my feelings, usually with a woman involved. I don’t think he’s physically intimate with these women.
I do have a jealous nature and was treated horribly by my first philandering husband. Is my husband being disrespectful? He even told her about our house, which we’ll be selling because she wants a property like ours.
Hurt and Fed Up
A: Your husband’s main flaw here is that he doesn’t understand how these attachments make you feel. He’s not having an emotional affair, since he doesn’t avoid coming home, doesn’t keep his friendships secret and tries to be more affectionate, etc.
Having a close friendship in the workplace isn’t betrayal if everyone understands where to draw the line. He actually chooses alliances with women who don’t pose a threat. One was much older, the other is committed to her family. And he tells you about them.
Also, having her as a neighbour would bring work home, which is unwise.
TIP OF THE DAY
A workplace friendship differs from an affair, emotional or physical.
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