If our primitive ancestors, rock and roll tour buses, or former President Bill Clinton have taught us anything about the sexual tendencies of our species, it’s that we can’t be strapped down to one person for too long.
When we see a women at the bar, buy her a drink and start schmoozing with her, it’s perfectly natural to be thinking about sleeping with her, rather than marriage plans.
Women lose interest over time
She continued to add that another component that factors into a decrease of sexual desire is the transition from passionate love to compassionate love, which typically comes with committed relationships and time.
Sex researcher Sarah Murray continued to say, “When an individual has had sex with their partner over the course of many, many years, it takes creativity and openness to keep things fresh and exciting.”
This is why, women especially, might feel as though they’re “bored” of sleeping with the same person.
Monogamy kills the male sex drive
According to Christopher Ryan of Psychology Today, the constant drain in libido men will experience over the course of a relationship is the product of staying with the same woman, monogamously, for too long.
Mark Luczak, a married man, as told on this Huffington Post piece, claims, “The excitement of newness, and thus the frequency, of sex often might just eventually fall victim to routine, shifts in the priority of other responsibilities, and even complacency — for both genders — as a relationship progresses into the longer term.”
Monogamy might be more difficult for women
Despite the fact most women in committed relationships will report low desires for sex as they turn the calendar, this isn’t a reflection of their hormones calling it quits. In fact, Dahl reports women will hit their best sexual form during their 30s and 40s.
Men, on the other hand, will experience theirs in their early to mid 20s. Sheesh.
By staying away from committed relationships, women will not experience the same dip in libido that accompanies monogamy. This will allow women to fully engage in their “sexual prime.”
We’re natural cheaters
Studies on the prairie vole, a species thought to be highly monogamous, showed that sexual monogamy not only hinges on the hormones the brain releases, but also the receptors.
Laslocky goes on to explain how, with regard to humans, the number of specific receptors varies from person to person. This results in certain people being born with a higher inclination to gravitate towards sexual polygamy.
She continues to use the quote, “Once a cheater always a cheater,” to further explain this dynamic.
In effect, there is some truth to that cliché, being that, aside from any type of behavioral or motive-based intentions, certain people are just genetically dreadful at maintaining a faithful sexual commitment.
Unfortunately, there’s not much we can do. We live in a society promoting monogamous marriage, and frankly, until something else comes up, it seems as though that’s the best way of handling intimate relationships.
For now, the best advice you could take is not to rush into a commitment if you aren’t 100 percent invested. And, if you feel the urge to seek a new lover, make sure you handle your business with your current one, first.
Remember, that’s somebody’s daughter.